The Sandwich Spot

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Hey!

Are you taking care of your parents and have a family (spouse, children)? Well, guess what, you are part of the sandwich generation. What is that?

The sandwich generation is a term coined by Dorothy Miller and Elaine Brody in 1981. In most cases, the sandwich generation individual is in the 40 to 60 age range, employed, has children, a spouse, and cares for their aging loved one. Here are a few words to describe the life of this individual:

  • Overwhelmed
  • Busy
  • Financial stress
  • Frustrated

Do these terms describe your life? Well, to be fully honest they, are representative of my world. The best piece of advice that I can share with you is: remember the why? Without a why focus, the stress of daily life will consume and rob you of joy. Yes, there is joy in the process. I know, it may not seem like it on an average day of juggling doctor appointments, school projects, and work deadlines. But, trust me, there is joy in the craziness.

I’m sharing this blog to encourage and educate my fellow sandwich generation”ers”. If I’ve described anything that sounds familiar to you, subscribe to my blog. We will survive. Not only that, we will thrive!

Live. Love. Laugh

Felicia

The Sandwich Spot

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FOUR don’ts of the holiday season and grief

Losing a loved one is a gut-wrenching experience. While the day of loss is memorable, the days following the loss can be unbearable. For most, the holiday season brings on a unique form of grief that is mixed with joy and tears. Whether your emotion is labeled anniversary reaction, grief, mourning, or having the blues, the common thread is an aching emptiness.  Emotions are real and should not be ignored. As we approach the holiday season, know you are not alone. Here are a few tips to help you have positive experiences this season:

  • Don’t practice avoidance. Connect with people who love you. Allow them to love you. It’s easy to say, “I’m ok” when you are hurting. Let someone inside to share your journey.
  • Don’t bottle your emotions. It’s ok to shed tears. Lots of tears. You are free to do the “ugly cry” whenever you need to. No apologies or explanation needed.
  • Don’t overeat or overindulge in shopping. Doing things in excess to hide emotions is not healthy. I didn’t say you couldn’t eat or shop. But, be mindful of the reason for doing both. Don’t use either activity to hide your emotions.
  • Don’t think you are weird or crazy if you need professional help. You can pray and see a therapist. I need to write that one more time. YOU CAN PRAY AND SEE A THERAPIST. One is not mutually exclusive of the other. Do both!

Live. Love. Laugh.

I hope you are intentional about enjoying this holiday season.

 

 

First blog post

This is your very first post. Click the Edit link to modify or delete it, or start a new post. If you like, use this post to tell readers why you started this blog and what you plan to do with it. The cols theme looks better with longer posts, so we’ll fill this one out with some filler text. ‘I’ll fetch the executioner myself,’ said the King eagerly, and he hurried off.

Alice thought she might as well go back, and see how the game was going on, as she heard the Queen’s voice in the distance, screaming with passion. She had already heard her sentence three of the players to be executed for having missed their turns, and she did not like the look of things at all, as the game was in such confusion that she never knew whether it was her turn or not. So she went in search of her hedgehog.

The hedgehog was engaged in a fight with another hedgehog, which seemed to Alice an excellent opportunity for croqueting one of them with the other: the only difficulty was, that her flamingo was gone across to the other side of the garden, where Alice could see it trying in a helpless sort of way to fly up into a tree.

By the time she had caught the flamingo and brought it back, the fight was over, and both the hedgehogs were out of sight: ‘but it doesn’t matter much,’ thought Alice, ‘as all the arches are gone from this side of the ground.’ So she tucked it away under her arm, that it might not escape again, and went back for a little more conversation with her friend.

When she got back to the Cheshire Cat, she was surprised to find quite a large crowd collected round it: there was a dispute going on between the executioner, the King, and the Queen, who were all talking at once, while all the rest were quite silent, and looked very uncomfortable.

The moment Alice appeared, she was appealed to by all three to settle the question, and they repeated their arguments to her, though, as they all spoke at once, she found it very hard indeed to make out exactly what they said.

The executioner’s argument was, that you couldn’t cut off a head unless there was a body to cut it off from: that he had never had to do such a thing before, and he wasn’t going to begin at HIS time of life.